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Will the Real Two-Year-Old Please Stand Up (and stop throwing things)

on January 18, 2015

I realized it’s been awhile since I updated y’all on Paxton stuff, so here goes. This post will be all about the Tiny Terrorist we have living in our house… also known as, our two-year-old.

  • Paxton weighs approximately 26 lbs right now. He is in 2T clothing, size 7 shoes, and is about 34″ tall. He uses every inch of that height to his advantage to reach previously-unreachable items on previously-toddler-safe countertops. Favorite steals include mommy’s coffee (sad, sad mommy) and mommy’s phone/keys/wallet.
  • Paxton eats very little. Sometimes I’m not sure how this kid survives! Of course, his peckish ways only occur at home or with moms… his daycare reports that he frequently eats second helpings at each meal, and then scavenges for leftovers! This leave us in the awkward position of explaining, each and every time they mention how much he ate that day, that yes, we really do feed our child, we swear! Favorite food is “yodirt” (yogurt), as well as cheese and fresh blueberries. His least favorite food is any kind of meat (he will sometimes even shun that ever-ubiquitous toddler food, the hotdog).  Another favorite food is ketchup- as a main dish, not a topping, preferably (not that he ever gets this, but you can bet that every last ounce of ketchup will be scraped off/licked clean when you serve him a hot dog or hamburger- and of course, the actual entree itself will be left untouched and shiny with toddler slobber.)
  • Paxton sleeps in his bed for half the night, and in moms’ bed for the rest of the night. We keep going back-and-forth between full nights in his bed, and the half-and-half arrangement we have going on right now. Currently, he goes to bed at 7pm, wakes up around midnight for his nightly migration to moms’ bed, and then sleeps until 6:30am or so. He also takes anywhere from a 1-2 hour nap every day around noon. Sometimes when he wakes up at midnight he will wake up hungry (probably because he didn’t eat his dinner), and will eat a small snack before going back to sleep for the night.
  • Paxton plays pretty well with other children. He has great socialization skills. When we were out to eat the other day, he and a little boy about three tables down were playing peek-a-boo by ducking their heads to look at each other under the tables. He also likes to play with others during group activities at daycare. His sister is probably his favorite playmate, however. She and he will play for hours, playing hide-and-go-seek, coloring with chalk, or playing other big-sister invented games. Sometimes he gets the short end of the stick with these games, but is generally a good sport and thinks it’s all in fun. He’s just happy to have someone to play with!
  • Paxton’s favorite toys are choo-choo tracks and trains. He has both the v.tech smart train with the plastic tracks, and the classic wooden train tracks, and he plays with both equally. He can generally get the pieces together himself but sometimes needs help with harder pieces like bridges. He also likes his lights and sounds puzzles, his firetruck/ambulance/big truck vehicles, and the nice wooden xylophone my mom got him for Christmas. He loves elmo’s world dvds, and likes his Thomas powerwheel as well, but sometimes the house is so overrun with with toys he has nowhere to ride it! Finally, he also enjoys books, though he frequently will choose to “read” to himself now rather than have us read to him.
  • Paxton speaks a combination of English and Toddler. He has things he says very clearly, like “choo choo train” and “bus” but there will be other times where he says something and it comes out as “hfpirl2rnjlgqkjrg2” and you have NO idea what he has said. He used 2, 3, or 4-word sentences now (“I up!” “I eat” “we go byebye now” “byebye park” “no nap!”) and he gains new words every day it seems like (even though it sometimes takes us awhile to realize what he is saying because of his “toddler accent”). For example, he has one word he currently says that sounds like “bubbadoo”- which I think means “w” and also think he thinks it means letters, in general, rather than being one specific letter- because he will frequently point to letters and say “bubbadoo.” But who knows.
  • Paxton counts! He can count up to ten, though he is most reliable just counting to three. He will spontaneously pick up or point to objects and count them: one… two… FWEE! He will also count on his fingers when prompted.
  • Paxton is working on colors, shapes, and letters. For colors, he can name all of them but gets them mixed up when asked “what color is this?”. For shapes he knows heart, star, and triangle, but is working on rectangle, circle, and square. Alphabet letters are hit-and-miss. One day he will point withe confidence to the letter “a” and name it correctly… the next day he will identify it as a “bubbadoo”. But, it is a start and we are getting there! His daycare has been a huge help in this and I freely admit he would not be as far along as he is without their help.
  • Paxton acts very much his age! He is generally a happy, sunny guy but when he gets frustrated at something he is apt to throw that something (train tracks that don’t fit together, a puzzle piece he can’t place, etc) and whine/tantrum. He is learning how to ask for help before he gets too frustrated, but we aren’t all the way there yet. He will run from you if you tell him it is night night time or time to change a diaper, and if you tell him no or uhuh, chances are he will do it anyways with a sly sideways glance at you like “now what, mommy?” His worst offense is hitting, which is most likely to when he is frustrated/crying- he will walk over and hit you and then stand there and cry, because he’s so totally overwhelmed with his emotions. We are doing our best to name his emotions for him and teach him how to say what he’s feeling, but it’s a process and he still often gets frustrated. I feel bad for him during these times because it’s so obvious that he is overwhelmed. Finally, he is firmly in the “no” phase and will say no to anything and everything, even when he means yes. He also won’t take no for an answer, and will ask you the same question over and over (often in ascending volume) hoping to get the answer he wants! Really, all of this is typical toddler behavior though, and he is generally a friendly, happy, smiley guy. He has never met a stranger and will happily greet anyone and everyone with a “Hi! howoo?” (Hi, how are you?).
  • Last but not least, Paxton is getting ready to potty train. He is very interested in the toilet now, and will watch us use the restroom and say “mommy potty? mommy go?” He will ask to sit on the toilet himself and will even sometimes attempt to go (pushing, farting) but has yet to succeed. Afterwards, he will flush the toilet himself and then help me wash his hands (though he usually just wants to play in the “bubboos’). We talk to him all the time about the potty and he tells us about half the time if he’s gone poop or if he’s wet. So, we’ve bought a few packages of toddler underwear and a case of night-time pull-ups and are working up our courage to begin the process. Hopefully soon!
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One response to “Will the Real Two-Year-Old Please Stand Up (and stop throwing things)

  1. Lindsay says:

    My goodness, our children sound SO much alike! I could have typed so much of this about Evelyn. 2 year olds are fun, exhausting creatures.

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