Raising a Blended Family


on November 30, 2012

So we’re home. They sent us home last night after doing a trillion and one tests while we were there and coming up with basically nothing. It wasn’t a virus. He seems like a perfectly healthy baby boy- except that perfectly healthy infants don’t just stop breathing, twice.

They’re calling it an ALTE- stands for Apparent Life-Threatening Event. Life threatening. Yeah, that’s scary as hell. Apparently 50% of all ALTEs in babies are never explained, although they think it was probably somehow related to his reflux- which they said is on the more severe end of things. According to one doctor, they see about 3-4 infant ALTE cases per week and more often than not the baby usually has reflux too. They sent us home with some reflux meds and instructions to “watch him” and, of course, come back if it happens again.


I feel like I’m in a hypervigilant state now. Pax slept ON us last night because we were too nervous to swaddle him and put him down in his cosleeper a foot away from us. The hospital didn’t send us home with monitors because they didn’t want us to be “slaves to the monitor”… I would’ve rather been a slave and KNOWN my kid was breathing at night! So instead, we ordered the angelcare monitor as soon as we got home last night, and thanks to local express delivery it will be here today. Tonight should be a better night.

The upside of all of this, if there is one, is that Pax is otherwise perfectly healthy, and so are the other two kids. That’s a blessing, considering that during our short 24 hour stay, we were surrounded by children of all ages who WEREN’T healthy and didn’t get to go home that day. Also, the hospital staff was amazingly sweet, considerate, and reassuring. On our way to the hospital Shorty and I were afraid that they were going to look at us like we were crazy when we gave them our very-much-by-that-point-BREATHING baby and told them he had stopped breathing less than half an hour ago. That never happened and instead, when I started bawling as I was relaying what had happened or when Shorty and I got emotional at all during our stay there, they were kind and compassionate and understanding, and for that I can’t thank them enough. Also- not that I EVER want to be staying overnight in a children’s hospital again- but the rooms were really nice! They had two flat screen Tvs and a wii in every room, plus two fold out beds and were very supportive of me as a breastfeeding mom. So that was good.

Overall I’m thankful we’re home and that we still have our boy… And I’m praying nothing like this ever happens again.

The pictures below are Pax on the ambulance stretcher and in his hospital bed. He looks so tiny! The last one is of him at home this morning, sleeping peacefully on his mommy.





6 responses to “ALTE

  1. allison-lee says:

    Glad to hear you’re all home now. I hope the AngelCare monitor brings you some peace of mind, but ends up being a totally unnecessary purchase otherwise.

  2. amy says:

    thank goodness he’s alright. hope you all rest with less worry tonight.

  3. pepibebe says:

    That just sounds so scary. I’d be a slave to the monitor too!

  4. weddedwife says:

    I am so happy that you all are home now. I hope that you don’t stress too much. Hopefully it will never happen again.

  5. That sounds absolutely terrifying! I’m glad to hear that he’s doing better, and I definitely hope you never have to go through anything like that again.

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