Raising a Blended Family

Will the REAL Mommy Please Stand Up- Also Titled, The Wisdom of Six Year Olds

on March 20, 2012

A conversation with my daughter that happened on the way home from school:


T1:  Mommy, when I tell my friends at school that I have 2 mommies, they ask me which one is my real mommy.

Crap. I was wondering when that would come up.  Here we go. *takes a deep breath*

Me: Oh? Well, what do you say to them when they ask you that?

We haven’t talked about this yet with you, darling girl.  It hasn’t come up and we didn’t have the words.  I feel like we should have- like we let you down.  We should have prepared you.  Did you even know what to say?

T1: I tell them that I have 2 mommies and a daddy and they go yea, but which one is your real mommy.

Freakin’ kids.

Me: That seems like a tricky question. What do you say when they ask that?

*holds breath*

T1: I say you both are my real mommy, that my Mommy C is the mommy whose tummy I was in, but my mommy A loves me and takes care of me and she’s my real mommy too.

Wow.  Thing One, you amaze me.  We haven’t talked about this at all and you are only six, and yet you still were able to come up with the words on your own to explain your family to your peers.  I am really freakin’ impressed.

Me: That sounds like a good answer.  What do your friends say to that?

T1: Oh, they say oh cool and we all go play.  Mom what’s for dinner?

Well, clearly this conversation didn’t leave any lasting scars.  And I’m so glad that in your world it all has a happy ending.  I wish it would stay that way forever, that you would never have to face the meanness of bullies and bigots and children who are taught hatred.  I hope with all my heart your world stays sunshine and rainbows forever.

And also… you, kid, are a freakin’ rockstar.


10 responses to “Will the REAL Mommy Please Stand Up- Also Titled, The Wisdom of Six Year Olds

  1. Isa says:

    Yeesh. I worry about that conversation. Glad T1 has such a good answer ready!

    • lezbemoms says:

      Me too!

      And btw, every time I see a comment from you somewhere in the blogosphere, I rush over to your blog to see if you’ve posted any “baby could be coming” updates. Ha! Yes, the baby-stalking has begun. 🙂

  2. Alison says:

    That is a very cute and very sweet story…and an awesome testament to the knock-out job you have done raising your girl!! High 5, moms!!!

  3. A C = B says:

    That is the cutest thing ever! T1 is a very smart little girl indeed.

  4. A C = B says:

    Hi ladies~ This isn’t related to this post, but just wanted to give y’all a heads up that I accidentally deleted our blog address when I went to change the name. *face palm* The blog is still there, it just has a new name and you can’t access it by going to the old blog. Sorry about that!
    It is now: http://www.sotohana.wordpress.com
    I’ll be writing a post about the new name soon.

  5. SotOhana says:

    Also, I nominated your blog for the leibster blog award because I love following all of your updates!


  6. Lex says:

    Oh, that’s awesome 🙂

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