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Raising a Blended Family

Amusing conversations with my mother

on October 11, 2011

So a little side story:  Shorty and I have kept my mom out of the general loop of baby-planning.    She doesn’t know about the donor, she doesn’t know we’re planning, she doesn’t even know we’re going to be wanting to use ME to get pregnant instead of C.  She doesn’t know any of this, partly because we want it to be a surprise when I hopefully eventually DO turn up pregnant, and partly because… well, we just haven’t.

So tonight when I was on the phone with her, I was more than a little amused to hear her suggest, completely unknowingly, that we do everything we’re already doing.  I forget what led to this particular conversation, but suddenly she blurted out…

OH MY GOSH, YOU SHOULD TOTALLY GET PREGNANT NOW, WHILE  YOU’RE WAITING AROUND FOR PA SCHOOL, OH MY GOSH HONEY THIS IS THE PERFECT TIME AND YOU COULD DO XYZ AND WE COULD HAVE A CHRISTMAS BABY!!! AND SINCE YOU HAVE THIS NEW JOB YOU CAN TOTALLY GET PREGNANT NOW AND C CAN GET PREGNANT LATER WHILE YOU’RE FINISHING SCHOOL! OH HONEY, THIS IS PERFECT!  (caps are her emphasis, not mine…. yes, she was very excited about ‘her’ plan.)

Afterwards, it was everything I could do not to burst out with… something. laughter?  Shocked admission that we are, in fact, planning on doing exactly that? In any case, I was highly amused, as was C.  My mother, who likes to plan everyone else’s lives for them, happens to have hit the nail on the head this time around.  All I can do is laugh and hope our/her plan works.  Hopehopehope.

Minutes later, she apparently had an afterthought: Actually… maybe not.  I guess I’m not ready for you to be pregnant.  You live too far away.

So. Almost on the same page, anyways.

PS- tomorrow is CD11.  In a flurry of email exchanges, Shorty and I have asked and answered every question either party could think of, including sending him a copy of the contract to review before we all sign, making sure he’s okay with a late evening rendevous (possibly 9pm, if O day is a day Shorty works and we have to leave after she gets off work), and double checking that he’d be available for multiple insems during any future cycles (though this first one will only be a single insem).  After exhausting all avenues of questioning (we feel completely comfortable at this point), all that’s left is to sit and wait.  About two weeks until we start the TWW… so we are in a pre-TWW, if you will.  Hope it goes by fast!

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